A lot of western men using Chinese dating sites often feel exasperated by the fact that they are not able to hold a free and frank discussion about sex with their dating partners. This is because they are raised in an environment where people consider sex to be a natural phenomenon in the life of individuals, and hence do not shy away from talking about it without feeling embarrassed. However, sex within the Chinese societies is considered to be an extremely private and intimate affair, and hence is not a topic for open discussion, especially when it comes to talking about the sexual experience of women.
According to traditional Chinese customs, virginity was considered to be the most important virtue of a female in order to get married. This concept, which is also referred to as the Chinese virginity concept made it necessary for Chinese females to remain pure and untouched until the day of their marriage. Consequently a women believed to have been involved in sexual alliances prior to her marriage was considered worthless and deficient and hence unsuitable for marriage. With the ancient Chinese society being clearly male dominated, the same rule was however not applicable to men who could indulge in any number of sexual relationship before and even after marriage. It is in keeping with this custom that men making enquiries related to the sexual life of their Chinese dating partners is not considered polite or even reasonable.
Despite the significant changes in the attitudes of both men and women within the Chinese society in the past couple of decades, the tradition concept of virginity is still prevalent in this eastern society. So while these oriental men are a lot more tolerant towards the use of online Chinese dating sites by their future wives, they are not too comfortable with the idea of their having explored any type of sexual relationships. For most Chinese men, the idea of perfect woman is still related to her virginity and sexual experiences.